In your quest to better understand rejection, it is critical that you get your head around the concept that “no” may not be the final answer. Often a “no” is situational or conditional depending upon how the people involved are feeling at that moment. Keep in mind there are three time-dependent conditions to consider before […]

Failure can be a major impediment to a successful career. The hurt from it can last a lifetime. The fear of it can stifle your ambition and diminish your potential. So, you might ask, what’s the point of learning about a subject that’s known to cause such grief and suffering?  The answer is that by […]

Seeking to understand what you don’t know, and then responding proactively to the rejection that occurs when you realize you’ve been wrong is a life-long endeavor. By accepting the challenge to discover the unknown you become a Doer: someone who seeks to do the right thing the right way for the right reason. Doers have […]

The vitality of any organization depends on its ability to overcome the inhibiting consequences of rejection. Applying Performance Management (PM) and Process Improvement (PI) makes the data collection effort less personal and more practical. And, therefore much easier to get “buy in” from those immobilized by the fear of rejection. PM and PI are two […]

During a period of disruption and uncertainty the motivation to learn may give way to the fear of rejection. Under such conditions, it falls upon the training profession to remind employees that their purpose is to maximize performance and productivity to ensure a sustainable future. Assuming you take the proactive approach, the first question you […]

Defining your purpose empowers you to clearly state to others why you exist, what you have to offer, who you wish to serve, and what you hope to achieve. Keep in mind also that your purpose needs to align with that of the host organization to ensure a good fit. An important step in aligning […]

Rejection hurts and the pain can last a lifetime. The fear of rejection can limit how you respond because the risk of failure is too high. Learning how to make rejection work for you rather than striving to avoid it will give you more control over your life. More importantly by going deeper into the […]

Matching an expectation to the desired response involves a progression of events that unfold in stages over time. It is important to realize that situations, behaviors, and feelings will always influence the response either negatively or positively. Think about a time when your expectations were not met. Say, for example, you signed up for a […]

In a productive workplace rejection should be viewed as the basis for learning and one of the critical factors leading to success. To be consistently successful you must understand the risk involved in any given situation and strive to minimize the chances of failure by seeking information from others both before and after deciding. The […]

Our higher education system teaches students to compete against each other for recognition and rewards. Having been taught collectively and tested individually throughout their formative years, graduates find the transition from learning to earning difficult because the teaching and testing processes are reversed. First-time job placements enter the workforce valuing only what they can do […]